This past February, Pastor Randy discussed numerous questions we all have about sex. During the last week of the series, he even did a Frequently Asked Questions discussion group. Here are the questions along with his answers. Either read below, or download a copy at the link on the bottom of the page.



1. How far is too far?
• This is probably the biggest question for most young people.
• The simple fact is, God doesn’t map out word for word what is OK and what is not (that would be nice.)
• The Bible repeatedly tells us not to be sexually immoral.
• When God addresses purity, he often speaks of sexual immorality.
• It is clear that God wants us to be pure.

2. Why is reserving sex for marriage such a big deal?
• Sexual intimacy binds people together physically, emotionally, and spiritually.
• All are different yet all depend on each other at the same time
• Time and time again, sex has proven to be a beautiful mystery and blessing when handled the right way. Yet, completely destructive when we walk outside of His plan for it.
• Sex is the most physical and intimate action in which two people can participate.
• Everything from holding hands, to kissing, or touching, is all part of what binds people together physically.
• The physical is only the outside representation of what is happening on the inside to both people emotionally and spiritually.
• When two people that have gone too far break up, it rips them apart on every level because they have made themselves so vulnerable.


3. Are People born homosexual?
• Homosexual is a term the world has used for those who have attached themselves sexually with a person of the same gender.
• There is a difference between attracted and recognizing some one is attractive.
• But what if you are sexually aroused by the same sex?
• In Genesis we can read how God created man in his own image.
• Now God is perfect and just – and He has created us just the way we are. Either Man or woman.
• My belief is if you’re attracted to the same sex, it is a learned behavior.
• Is it easy to change? No.
• Is it possible to change? Yes.
• Will there always be a struggle? Probably (on this side of eternity.)
• But Gods word says if we align ourselves (our will) with Gods, we will make progress.
• If you or someone you know is struggling, email me randy@liv180.tv
(Resource: Exodus International)

• I get a little upset with “ the Pharisees of today.”
• I’d consider many people in the church today to be no different.
• In the church, we like to use the term “our sin nature.”
• Well I like to use the term “jacked up.”
• Let’s face it, we are born into this world as jacked up creatures. And deep down we all want to please ourselves.

• Let’s get this straight, sin is sin.
• But there are definitely sins that affect us differently.
• If self righteous Christians would look at their own sin the way they see the sin of homosexuality, the world and the church would be a better place.
• God looks down from heaven and sees people in need of his mercy and forgiveness everyday.
• The church has made homosexuality there pet sin to hate – that’s wrong.
• God is the lover of people.
• Homosexuality is a choice, as is any other sin
• The latter part of Romans chapter 1 speaks clearly; repentance and restoration is the hope.
• That being said, God did not create the human body to function properly in same sex relationships.
• Again if you have further questions, I would be glad to help you. (Exodus International.org)


4. Porn – Is it really all that bad?
• It’s a problem that continues to spread throughout the world and the church.
• 37% of pastors say online porn is a struggle for them.
• 720 million porn movies are watched every year.
• 77% of all online users are male visitors on porn sites.
• Average career length of a porn actress – 1 year.
• 75% of people view porn to masturbate.
• 65% of parents are unaware that children view porn.
• Average age of a U.S male who views porn for the first time is 12.
• Americans spend10-12 billion annually on pornography.
• Research shows that porn has encouraged people to carry out sex related crimes.
• Ruins relationships, because it causes an unhealthy outlet.
• Porn is often the start of a sexual addiction.
• How much is too much, well that depends on how much you are willing to potentially ruin your future relationship with your spouse.
o For example a man has a fight with his wife and instead of dealing with the problem, he turns to porn.
o It’s the bad apple effect. One bad apple can ruin the whole batch.
o The same thing happens to us when we view porn. It’s a slippery slope.
o We think we can handle a small dose, but it eventually will ruin your life.
o 1 Corinthians 5:6 says, “Don’t you know a little yeast works through the whole batch of dough?”


5. Do you think accountability is good? Why?

• Yes, accountability is often a concept made too difficult.
• Accountability is having someone partner with you, to support and encourage you to make the right decisions when faced with tough issues.
• Example: I go on a date with my girlfriend. We pull off the road to talk. It gets hot and heavy.
• Accountability partner calls, doesn’t judge but challenges me not to make same mistake and encourages me to keep my behavior aligned with my beliefs.


6. My friend is sleeping with her boy friend what can I do?
• Your friend is making choices that affect her life – but your role is to pray and be there for her.
• Until they are willing to change, your role is limited.
• When they are ready:
o Speak the truth gently
o Speak with compassion
o Be ready to listen – Don’t say I told you so.
o You can’t fix them / only God can